I thought I understood that libido was an uncontrollable force that we essentially get dragged around by. My sex counselor says that I can do things to change my libido, but is that true? How can I change something that acts ON me?
Libido is your personal, sexual psychic force. Because we are only semiconscious of this force, our conscious minds are not completely in control of the psychic force itself. However, although we are always in control of how we act in response to the drive, it is the less-than-conscious aspect that accounts for why it feels pushy, or external. People use the word “libido” and talk about libido quite a bit: “She has a super high libido.” “He doesn’t have any libido.” But do we understand what the word means, really?