Adventurous Couple's Guide to Strap-On Sex

Are you curious about male anal penetration by a female partner wearing a strap-on? Sex educator Violet Blue will provide you with the information you need to enjoy it safely and erotically. She emphasizes the fun and sexiness of this type of play while detailing anatomy, communication, toys, and more. She tours male anatomy from penis to prostate to help readers understand what they are doing when playing with strap-on sex, and to get as much pleasure out of it as possible. While some authors can make an anatomy lesson boring or confusing, Blue writes in a way that is both accurate and very readable, with some humor sprinkled throughout. One reviewer also appreciated her emphasis on how ”deliciously connected and complex” male sexuality is.

This book addresses myths about anal play and strap-on sex and counters them with correct information (i.e. anal play actually has nothing to do with a man’s sexual orientation, and it doesn’t hurt when done correctly). Blue also discusses how to talk to your partner about strap-on sex: how to explain why it’s appealing to you, how to bring it up if you don’t usually talk about sex, what to do if your partner’s reaction is negative, etc. She does an excellent job of covering both the physical and emotional aspects of strap-on play. She explains how to choose the right harness, dildo(s), and lube, and describes ways you can have fun with strap-on play without penetration. There are also several erotic stories by Alison Tyler to inspire you and give you plenty of new ideas.

While Blue is generally inclusive in her writing, emphasizing that ”strap-ons are for men, women, and trans-people of all genders and orientations,” most of the info in this book is geared towards male-female couples. If this is not your situation, see The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex by Karlyn Lotney, which is aimed at a broader audience.