How To Choose

Dear Sex Counselor, I am looking for a DVD on Positions, but I notice you offer a lot of different options.  How do I choose? Instructional films on positions are excellent resources to learn new ways to broaden your sexual repertoire, help you spark conversations on what you like, as well as simply being visually and sensually arousing...

So you want to be more green. You want to lessen your impact on our planet and choose products that contribute to this goal. You've heard all about how to "go green" with your car, your home, your food choices...but now you're wondering, what about pleasure toys? How can you reduce your carbon footprint while pursuing pleasure? How do you find...

I am wondering how I can tell the difference between the different instructional movies you have for sale. Can you help? ___________________________________________________________________ We have divided our instructional films into several categories to help make your purchasing decisions easier. Instructional films with a more ...

Dr. Myrtle, How can I figure out which condom is best for my needs? We've put together a handy guide to give you as much information as possible about the variety of condoms we carry.  Download our condom comparison chart inside our Condoms & Barriers Brochure. You'll get exact information about the length, width, color,...

Dear Sex Counselor, I really like it when my partner plays with my nipples, and I've been thinking of bringing a toy or two to the bedroom. But there are so many nipple toys on your website! Where should I start? Our nipple toys can be divided into two main categories – clamps and suction toys. We also have a variety of breast and nipple...

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Dr. Myrtle, I want to protect myself, but it seems weird or geeky to whip out some latex. How can I make using condoms more fun? Condoms and other barriers (such as gloves and dams) allow people to explore their sexuality more safely. If you’ve decided to be sexual with someone else,...

Dear Sex Counselor, My partner and I would like to get a sexy game to play together, but I'm not sure how to choose one. Can you help? Games are a great way to have fun with a partner while discovering or introducing new ideas to your erotic play. Here’s a guide to help you choose a sexy game or two to make your playtime more exciting. We...

Dear Dr. Myrtle, Can’t I use oil as a sexual lubricant? Maybe. Oils are lubricants, and some people use them as sexual lubricants without any problem whatsoever. As long as you know yourself, your needs, and the potential issues involved, you may be able to use oils sexually. But before you do, consider all of the facts. The Oily Debate ...

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, My partner and I have beautiful sex together, and we are curious about exploring anal sex. I must say that every time my lover touches my anus, it is quite exciting. Do you have any suggestions? All of us have sensitive nerve endings around the anus and rectum that can produce...

Dear Sex Counselor, Can you recommend any books that give moms or moms-to-be information about maintaining a healthy sex life, both during and after pregnancy? Maintaining a healthy sex life is important to many moms and moms-to-be. Pregnant women and women who have recently given birth often find themselves wondering what’s "healthy" or ...

Dear Sex Counselor, There are so many harnesses ... how do I choose one that will fit me? In general, you should measure your hips or waist (wherever you want to wear the harness) and use that measurement to choose a harness that fits you. Our harnesses are sized as follows:   Hip Harnesses Hip or Waist...

Dear Sex Counselor, I like to give my partner whole-body massages, and they sometimes lead to intercourse. I know oils don’t make good sexual lubricants (and that they can make holes in condoms). Are there any products I can use for massage and for sexual intercourse? It’s a dilemma. We don’t recommend using massage oil on the genitals,...

Dear Sex Counselor, I see some different remote-controlled wearable vibrators on your website. How do they compare in terms of quality, loudness, variability of sensation and wearability for a 1X size woman? On the one that has straps instead of a panty, is it difficult to keep it properly positioned? Of the remote-controlled items that we...

Dear Sex Counselor, What the difference between using a cock ring or a simple rubber / elastic band? Won’t a rubber band do just as well? A rubber band is not adjustable, and also can cut into the skin in an uncomfortable way. Most commercial erection rings have rounded edges, or wider bands so that they don’t cut into the skin and cause...

Dear Sex Counselor, I’m curious about packing. What is it, and why would I want to do it? I’m also curious about how to choose a packing dildo, and how to keep it in place. What can you tell me? What is packing? Packing refers to using a dildo or other object to create a penis-like bulge in the pants. Special soft dildos (called packing...

Dear Sex Counselor, I have a very small hip size (24")... its hard for me to find a strap-on harness that will work. I am looking for one that will fit me "perfectly". Do you have any that will fit me? There are a few that could work: The Pleasure Principle is a very adjustable harness that will go to the size you need, and offers...

Dear Dr. Myrtle, What can you tell me about the female condom? Structural Details of the Female Condom The female condom is made up of a long polyurethane sheath that lines the walls of the vagina and is anchored at each end by flexible polyurethane rings. The ring at the closed end rests over the cervix (like a diaphragm or cervical...

Dear Dr. Myrtle, I use lubricant sometimes: either KY jelly or Vaseline. Is there something wrong with those? There is definitely something wrong with using any oil-based or petroleum product in the vagina. Vaseline is an oil based petroleum product that is very difficult to naturally clear out of the vaginal space. It can cause something...

Dear Sex Counselor, I’ve finally worked up the courage to buy myself a vibrator. I’ve never used one before, and I’m feeling overwhelmed by all the choices. Can you give me any guidelines? I want my first vibrator to be one that I’ll like. Congratulations on buying your first vibrator! I understand how overwhelming it can be to look at all...

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, I’m thinking about getting a vibrator, but I don’t know how to pick one.  Why do women use them? How do I know which one is right for me? P.S. I’ve heard vibrators can be addicting. Is this true? Vibrators can be used for all sorts of things: to enhance your pleasure...