I thought I understood that libido was an uncontrollable force that we essentially get dragged around by. My sex counselor says that I can do things to change my libido, but is that true? How can I change something that acts ON me? Libido is your personal, sexual psychic force. Because we are only semiconscious […]
Category: Function: Libido, Interest, and Desire
How to keep the sexual fires burning
I suffer from a low level of sexual desire toward my husband, and it is not because I don’t find him attractive. Please help me find a way to improve or increase my cognitive sense of desire. One of the more destructive myths that floats around out there is that sexual desire should come automatically, […]
Libido and pre-menopausal women
I’d like to get some confirmation on my experience that my interest in sex goes in waves that roughly correlate with my menstrual cycle. Am I really changing estrogen quantities sufficiently to go from nymphomaniac to happy celibate? Sexual desire, also know as “libido”, is probably one of the most under-discussed and most-wondered-about emotions. There […]
Re-sparking the libido
I’ve entered perimenopause and I’ve noticed that my libido is not what it used to be. Are there things I can do to get it revved up again? There are natural changes that happen with our libido when our hormonal balance changes at menopause. Libido, or the desire to be sexual, takes practice to happen […]
Do oral contraceptives diminish libido?
Is it true that birth control pills take away sexual drive? Oral contraceptive use is common. Over 30 million women choose to prevent pregnancy in the US. The leading choice (37%) for contraception is hormonal control of ovulation (“the pill”–oral contraceptives, injections, patches & implants). Non-reversible surgical sterilization (female and male) are used by 36%. […]
Low Libido after Delivery
Since delivery, I have had very little interest in sex. It is not at all uncommon for new parents to experience a drop in libido. If you experienced a difficult delivery, especially a Cesarean birth, you may still be physically recuperating. Any delivery can cause bleeding, and recovery can be slow as you your body […]
Athletes and libido
My lover is a 27-year-old man who has a very low sex drive. He tells me that this has not always been the case. He is an athlete, training for marathons and eating an extremely low-fat diet. I realize that one does not always have the libido of an 18-year-old, but I’m wondering if his […]
Libido and birth control pills
I heard that birth control pills decrease sex drive. Is this true? Is there any way to increase the sex drive without going off the pill? I am on quite a low dose already. Birth control pills work because they replicate the hormonal signals of pregnancy. In other words, new pregnancies can’t occur because the […]