Dear Sex Educator, I have trouble orgasming unless I use my vibrator (plug in, medium size) and lately I’ve found that I can’t orgasm unless I am using it. Is it possible that I could have damaged the nerves in my clitoris somehow?? I am happily married, love to masturbate, have no problem telling my […]
Category: Function: Arousal, Engorgement & Orgasm
What does self-pleasuring have to do with having orgasms with my partner?
I keep hearing about the importance of self-pleasure, but I’m not sure why I should. I’m only interested in sex with my partner. Statistically, people express higher levels of sexual happiness when they are able to persuade their own body to higher levels of sexual arousal. So the short answer to your question is that […]
Arousal & Chocolate
Does chocolate actually has an effect on sexual arousal? How does it work? Eat 4 ounces of 70% chocolate, and call me in the morning. Looking for a quick, easy boost for your sexual arousal? Eat dark chocolate, (“straight-up” without other toffee, caramel, sugar-dense junk on it), every day in several doses. Not only will […]
Still Juicy: Maintaining Sexual Health through and beyond Menopause
Download a free PDF version of this brochure I’ve experienced several changes in my body since starting through menopause, and I’m worried that my sex life will suffer. Is there anything I can do on my own to maintain my sexy self? Yes, there is quite a bit a person can do to maintain her […]
Self Pleasuring for People with Vulvas and Vaginas
Download a free PDF version of this brochure Self pleasure, also known as masturbation, specifically refers to touching yourself sexually in a way that feels good. There is no one right way to masturbate, and as long as it doesn’t hurt, there’s certainly no wrong way. Pleasuring yourself, on your own terms, is a way […]
Male Multiple Orgasms
Yes, it’s true that men can learn to hold off ejaculating, and have multiple orgasms! The technique involves using breathing and acupressure to delay ejaculation, but still allows orgasm to happen. You’ll find step-by-step instructions in the book Multi-Orgasmic Man by Chia & Arava. Many of our customers have learned these techniques, and say it’s […]
Pornography and your sex life
Dear Sex Educator, My husband and I have been together for four years, and married for three. Until about one year ago I was extremely sexually aggressive and most always aroused. I masturbated frequently, at least two or three times per week, and could become aroused at the drop of a hat. All of a […]
How do erection rings work?
Dear Sex Educator, Are cock rings a hoax? No, cock (erection) rings are definitely not a hoax. Here’s how they work. Erections are caused by blood traveling into the penis through blood vessels deep in the core of the penis and becoming “trapped” there for a time, then returning back out of the penis on […]
Delayed Ejaculation
Lately, it’s been taking me a really long time to be able to ejaculate and have an orgasm. Why is this happening? There are a variety of reasons that men may be unable to orgasm and ejaculate, a condition known as delayed ejaculation (DE) or ejaculatory delay. DE is defined as the inability to orgasm […]
Do herbal supplements work?
Most supplements will not do anything to you, physically, to help you be aroused. The original Spanish Fly is actually toxic, and even in small quantities causes an intense urinary tract irritation that will lead to an infection in most people. That irritation is perceived as arousal, which is how it got that reputation. But […]