Dear Sex Educator, I have trouble orgasming unless I use my vibrator (plug in, medium size) and lately I’ve found that I can’t orgasm unless I am using it. Is it possible that I could have damaged the nerves in my clitoris somehow?? I am happily married, love to masturbate, have no problem telling my […]
Category: Orgasms
What does self-pleasuring have to do with having orgasms with my partner?
I keep hearing about the importance of self-pleasure, but I’m not sure why I should. I’m only interested in sex with my partner. Statistically, people express higher levels of sexual happiness when they are able to persuade their own body to higher levels of sexual arousal. So the short answer to your question is that […]
Male Multiple Orgasms
Yes, it’s true that men can learn to hold off ejaculating, and have multiple orgasms! The technique involves using breathing and acupressure to delay ejaculation, but still allows orgasm to happen. You’ll find step-by-step instructions in the book Multi-Orgasmic Man by Chia & Arava. Many of our customers have learned these techniques, and say it’s […]
Self Pleasure How-to for People with Vulvas
Click here to download a pdf brochure about Self Pleasuring for People with Vulvas and Vaginas. We all have to start somewhere! I can tell you that I learned to masturbate after reading an excerpt from the book Our Bodies, Ourselves that described masturbation, the clitoris, and orgasm. I highly recommend the updated version of […]
Will I get addicted to using a vibrator?
We wonder whether this myth got started at the same time as the one about growing hair on your palms if you masturbated too much. A vibrator may allow you to have an orgasm more quickly than with manual stimulation, but it will not desensitize you to any kind of stimulation which typically leads you […]
I can’t quite get to an orgasm when I’m with my partner.
I can have an orgasm when I’m by myself, but I can’t have an orgasm with my partner. Why is this happening? The following post goes beyond purely technical issues that might be involved, such as what body parts you have and how you are using them. We’re going to look deeper into some issues […]
Self-pleasuring, but can’t have an orgasm
I am an 18-year-old woman and have been masturbating regularly since I was 14. I have been able to bring myself close to orgasm with fingers and then again with a vibrator, but I haven’t had an orgasm. I’ve tried using a massaging showerhead to stimulate myself, but nothing seems to work. Is there any […]
I used to have more, better orgasms…
Download a brochure on Orgasms for People with Vulvas and Vaginas.
More, better orgasms
Dear Sex Educator, When my boyfriend and I are just playing, he can have multiple orgasms that can last for a while. I have a very hard time achieving an orgasm, and when I do it doesn’t last very long so I never really get to enjoy it. So I was wondering if there was […]
Vaginal atrophy, dryness, and lack of flexibility
I am postmenopausal – I have vaginal penetration issues that are severe, tearing and extreme dryness as well as progressive desensitization. I am looking for ways to renew vaginal tissue and increase elasticity. Where do I begin…massage vibrator? moisturizer? kegel exerciser? estriol creams? Begin with reading through the Vaginal Renewal program.