I have been with the same man for eight years, with an affair or two in between (not hidden; he is also comfortable w/my bi-ness). However, I just am not sexually excited by him or attracted to him at all. In fact, he kind of grosses me out. The rest of our partnership is okay […]
Category: Libido
Athlete’s libido level over time
I am a 42 yr old cis-woman who has been in a three year relationship with a 41 yr old cis woman who is quite active. She is involved in a tennis league and plays regularly, but more importantly, she is a runner and trains extremely hard as she is training for the NYC Marathon […]
Athletes and libido
My lover is a 27-year-old man who has a very low sex drive. He tells me that this has not always been the case. He is an athlete, training for marathons and eating an extremely low-fat diet. I realize that one does not always have the libido of an 18-year-old, but I’m wondering if his […]
Libido and birth control pills
I heard that birth control pills decrease sex drive. Is this true? Is there any way to increase the sex drive without going off the pill? I am on quite a low dose already. Birth control pills work because they replicate the hormonal signals of pregnancy. In other words, new pregnancies can’t occur because the […]
Vaginal Renewal after Cancer or Surgery
I have completed radiotherapy for cervical cancer, but I’ve noticed that my vaginal space isn’t as big or as flexible as it used to be. Is there anything I can do to help recover my previous abilities? First, I’d like to address the health part of your question. This part of your body has been […]
How do desire and sexual curiosity develop?
Is sexual desire and the ability to try new things based partly on how you were raised and what you saw of your parents’ love life (like the smooching, hand holding, hugging)? I understand that some of this desire thing is built-in, but is some of it learned? I have been married to the same […]
Am I having too much sex?
My girlfriend and I have sex at least seven to ten times a week. Sometimes we even have sex that many times in one day. We have only been together for together for 3.5 months. This is my first relationship; however, my girlfriend has been involved in serious relationships before. (She is 20 and I […]