Dear Sex Educator, I have recently discovered that my wife of ten years is masturbating with a vibrator. For myself it was a crushing blow. I asked her what I had done wrong, but she said nothing. I had always thought that our sex life was great – she even told me that she had […]
Category: Communicating about Sex
Same-sex feelings and experimentation
Dear Sex Educator, I am 13 and I am a virgin … sort of. Last summer my best girlfriend and I started doing something I feel “funny” about. We have talked about boys for years but have never tried anything. One night on a sleepover last summer, we practiced kissing each other, pretending to kiss […]
Are my fantasies sick?
Dear Sex Educator, I’m not certain if I’m asking a question, so much as asking for insight. I don’t believe I was a victim of physical sexual abuse, but wonder if perhaps I’ve been a victim psychologically. I don’t know how to find the source of this bothersome mind process, if there is a source, […]
Communicating my desires to another woman
Dear Sex Counselor, I have recently begun a relationship with a female. We have met in person only a few times but have talked for months over the computer. We are very attracted to each other. She is coming to visit me in a week and will be staying the night, as she lives an […]
Dear Sex Educator, My girlfriend and I have decided to wait until we are married to have sexual intercourse. We are both virgins, and we are wondering if we were to have anal sex, would it affect her virginity in any way? Will I be considered to be “losing my virginity” also? The answer really […]
Getting more comfortable making sounds during sex
Dear Sex Educator, I am a generally shy person who has trouble making amorous sounds when my husband and I make love. Part of it is from my upbringing, where I often had to be quiet (long story), and I’m sure that living in a tiny L.A. apartment doesn’t help, either. I actually hold my […]
When one wants a threesome and the other doesn’t
Dear Sex Educator, My husband wants a threesome and I don’t. I am a happily married woman. My husband wants me to bring a woman into our bedroom, for me to have sex with. I have no burning desire to do this, and I am very uncomfortable with the entire thing. This is a fantasy […]
Am I having too much sex?
My girlfriend and I have sex at least seven to ten times a week. Sometimes we even have sex that many times in one day. We have only been together for together for 3.5 months. This is my first relationship; however, my girlfriend has been involved in serious relationships before. (She is 20 and I […]
What is a step-parent’s role in educating a partner’s kids?
Dear Sex Educator, As a step-parent, what responsibilities do I have to teach my teenage step-daughters about sex? I just married a woman with 11- and 13-year-old daughters. I have two sons, and know absolutely nothing about girls. The girls seem to be sexually active – their talk, dress and companions indicate that. Is that […]
How do desire and sexual curiosity develop?
Is sexual desire and the ability to try new things based partly on how you were raised and what you saw of your parents’ love life (like the smooching, hand holding, hugging)? I understand that some of this desire thing is built-in, but is some of it learned? I have been married to the same […]