Download a free PDF version of this brochure Self-pleasure, also known as masturbation, specifically refers to touching yourself sexually in a way that feels good. There is no right way to masturbate, and as long as it doesn’t hurt, there’s no wrong way either. You can do it alone, with a friend, or as part […]
Category: Function: Arousal, Engorgement & Orgasm
I can’t quite get to an orgasm when I’m with my partner.
I can have an orgasm when I’m by myself, but I can’t have an orgasm with my partner. Why is this happening? The following post goes beyond purely technical issues that might be involved, such as what body parts you have and how you are using them. We’re going to look deeper into some issues […]
Self-pleasuring, but can’t have an orgasm
I am an 18-year-old woman and have been masturbating regularly since I was 14. I have been able to bring myself close to orgasm with fingers and then again with a vibrator, but I haven’t had an orgasm. I’ve tried using a massaging showerhead to stimulate myself, but nothing seems to work. Is there any […]
I used to have more, better orgasms…
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More, better orgasms
Dear Sex Educator, When my boyfriend and I are just playing, he can have multiple orgasms that can last for a while. I have a very hard time achieving an orgasm, and when I do it doesn’t last very long so I never really get to enjoy it. So I was wondering if there was […]
Anorgasmia and Anti-depressants
Why am I not having orgasms since I started taking antidepressants? I’m a lot happier since I started my antidepressant medication, but … it’s a weird thing … I can’t seem to have orgasms anymore. It’s not like I want to be depressed, but this isn’t a great trade-off. Any suggestions? It’s important to distinguish […]
Eager Ejaculation and what you can do
Download PDF brochure version. Try as I might, I can’t seem to last as long as I’d like to. How can I prolong sexual penetration without coming? In books and movies, our culture glorifies the mad, passionate rush to intercourse as the ultimate sexual experience. Unfortunately, frenzied sexual experiences can sometimes be unsatisfying and difficult […]
Using a Penis Pump
Penis pumps work to pull more blood into the penis than would normally be present during engorgement resulting from sexual arousal. The result is a slightly larger, firmer penis that is more sensitive to contact. This enlargement is not long-lived, and there is no evidence that a man can permanently enlarge his penis by repeated […]
Arousal & Tantric Sexuality
What is “Tantric sex”? Tantric Sexuality generally refers to a process of integration between Eastern spiritual mind focus and a physical sexual connection between lovers. “Mind-Body” connection is one way to think of it, but really that’s too simplistic. Tantra is as much about being aware of your own mind-body connection as it is about […]
When vibrators are the way you have your orgasms
Dear Sex Educator, I’ve read your Q&A about orgasms without vibrators and I’m wondering if you could suggest some other options. I have spent a number of hours today reading about female ejaculation and orgasms, both manually and electronically achieved. I found out that I “wet” during orgasm the first time I used a vibrator […]