Sex Tips, Tricks & Techniques

How to give a blow job (aka fellatio)

Published: May 12 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I’d like to give my male partner pleasure with my mouth, but I’m not sure what to do. Can you help? We’ve put together some suggestions for you, and I’m sure there are more ideas out there. If other people have tricks and techniques to share, send them to us, and we’ll add them to this answer. First and foremost: the...

I'm having lesbian fantasies

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I have been seriously involved with a man for the last eight years. During our love making, I sometimes talk about having sex with another woman to turn him on, but the truth is it really turns me on, too. I have never had an encounter with another woman, but it seems to be all I think about now. Should I act on this new...

Hesitant about cunnilingus

Published: Oct 7 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I’ve been slow at giving oral sex to women. Inhibitions? Taboos? I don’t know. I’m committed to pleasuring my lover that way. Any suggestions for helping me to overcome that? In addition to orally pleasuring my female partner, how do vibrators fit in? (pardon the pun)? Which do women find more pleasurable - good oral sex or...

My partner says I'm too wet

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, My partner tells me that I get too wet for him to feel enough sensation during intercourse. How can we resolve this issue? This is a problem for some men and women, particularly those who are used to quite a bit of friction during stimulation. Here are a couple of things you can do that might help. Take a couple...

Oral sex lubricants

Published: Jul 28 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, Do you have any suggestions for the best lubes to use during oral sex with men? Avoiding dry mouth at an inopportune moment has proven difficult. Yes, there are a few good choices for lubricants that can be used during oral sex with men. Some people prefer water-based lubricants for their mouth feel, and others like the...

Do herbal supplements work?

Published: Oct 7 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, Do things like "Spanish Fly" and other herbal supplements help people get aroused? Most supplements will not do anything to you, physically, to help you be aroused. The original Spanish Fly is actually toxic, and even in small quantities causes an intense urinary tract irritation that will lead to an infection in most...

Tips on using a vibrator

Published: Sep 10 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I just got a vibrator for the first time and would like to know how to best use it. I am a single 22-year-old woman and I like it! I have only had orgasms during masturbation, although I have also slept with men. Two days ago I overcame my stupidity and went to a sex shop. It wasn’t as nice as yours (I was the only woman...