Sex Tips, Tricks & Techniques

How can I best pleasure my partner

Published: Oct 7 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, Is the upper/inner thigh of a woman a sensitive or pleasurable spot to touch? Where are the best places to touch my girlfriend to give her the most pleasure? How can I pleasure my partner? This wonderful question is one of the ones we get asked most often. My answer is actually very simple: Ask your partner what feels...

How do you 'deep throat'?

Published: Oct 7 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I have trouble taking my boyfriend’s entire penis into my mouth when I perform oral sex on him. I can’t seem to overcome the gag reflex. He is not overly large. I just can’t seem to take in very much (3-4", tops). Is there any way to overcome this reflex? Practice? Actually, you are completely normal in how much of your...

Wanting anal penetration by my wife

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I am aroused by the thought of having my wife strap on a dildo and have anal sex with me. I’m afraid she’ll refuse and question my sexuality. How should I introduce her to the idea? First, I want to reassure you (and your wife, should she read this) that your interest in anal penetration is quite common, even for...

Why watch erotic movies

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, Why do people watch erotic movies? Many people, women and men, enjoy watching sexually explicit erotic movies. The reasons are as varied as their individual personalities. Here are some of the most common reasons: It excites you to watch other people have sex. This is a valid tool for both stimulating yourself...

Ways to expand beyond vibrations

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I have multiple orgasms with my vibrator - as many as ten in 15 minutes - but have never had an orgasm with a man. I have tried different things to have an orgasm without my vibrator, but it seems that nothing works. My orgasms are incredibly intense, but still I wish to have one without plugging something in first. I...

Using double-ended dildos

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, My girlfriend and I have tried double dildos for mutual pleasure, and it just doesn’t work. The dildo we bought was not firm enough to stay in place and could not move well with thrusting. Is there anything on the market that can provide mutual vaginal penetration for women without falling out? If so, please give me some...

Resources for people new to BDSM

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, My boyfriend and I are very open about all sexual desires that we have, and nothing is taboo - which is very nice! He is understanding and quick to respond to any interests that I introduce, and in certain ways he has been somewhat of a teacher, as he explored much of the kinky sex he is/was interested in before he met me. ...

How do erection rings work?

Published: Oct 7 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, Are cock rings a hoax? No, cock (erection) rings are definitely not a hoax. Here’s how they work. Erections are caused by blood traveling into the penis through blood vessels deep in the core of the penis and becoming "trapped" there for a time, then returning back out of the penis on the outer surface veins. Applying...