Sex Tips, Tricks & Techniques

Why watch erotic movies

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, Why do people watch erotic movies? Many people, women and men, enjoy watching sexually explicit erotic movies. The reasons are as varied as their individual personalities. Here are some of the most common reasons: It excites you to watch other people have sex. This is a valid tool for both stimulating yourself...

Ways to expand beyond vibrations

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I have multiple orgasms with my vibrator - as many as ten in 15 minutes - but have never had an orgasm with a man. I have tried different things to have an orgasm without my vibrator, but it seems that nothing works. My orgasms are incredibly intense, but still I wish to have one without plugging something in first. I...

Using double-ended dildos

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, My girlfriend and I have tried double dildos for mutual pleasure, and it just doesn’t work. The dildo we bought was not firm enough to stay in place and could not move well with thrusting. Is there anything on the market that can provide mutual vaginal penetration for women without falling out? If so, please give me some...

Resources for people new to BDSM

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, My boyfriend and I are very open about all sexual desires that we have, and nothing is taboo - which is very nice! He is understanding and quick to respond to any interests that I introduce, and in certain ways he has been somewhat of a teacher, as he explored much of the kinky sex he is/was interested in before he met me. ...

How do erection rings work?

Published: Oct 7 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, Are cock rings a hoax? No, cock (erection) rings are definitely not a hoax. Here’s how they work. Erections are caused by blood traveling into the penis through blood vessels deep in the core of the penis and becoming "trapped" there for a time, then returning back out of the penis on the outer surface veins. Applying...

Pornography and your sex life

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, My husband and I have been together for four years, and married for three. Until about one year ago I was extremely sexually aggressive and most always aroused. I masturbated frequently, at least two or three times per week, and could become aroused at the drop of a hat. All of a sudden, all of my desire seemed to disappear...

Finding new things to do on our dates

Published: Oct 7 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I am at a loss for new dating ideas! My girlfriend and I have been dating for 15 months now. We do not live together, but we go out faithfully every Friday and Saturday night. It seems as if we have run out of places to go and things to do. We have done movies, dinner at a zillion places, coffee, concerts, sporting events...

Should we try some exhibitionism?

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, My partner and I both have the fantasy of being watched while we are making love. She agreed that a female would be fine to be the "watcher", since I feel more comfortable with that than with another male. My question is, are some things left better to the imagination, or should we give this idea of being watched a try? ...