Why watch erotic movies

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Dear Sex Counselor,

Why do people watch erotic movies?


Many people, women and men, enjoy watching sexually explicit erotic movies. The reasons are as varied as their individual personalities. Here are some of the most common reasons:

  • It excites you to watch other people have sex. This is a valid tool for both stimulating yourself during masturbation, and setting the stage for a hot time with your partner. One of the safest kinds of sex you can have is mutual masturbation, and enjoying visual stimuli during masturbation can increase your erotic charge.
  • It’s a way to learn about new sex practices that you might wish to explore, either with yourself or with a partner. Erotic movies generally venture beyond missionary-position sexual intercourse, and may include activities about which you are curious. Watching a movie with your partner allows you to discuss the actions going on in front of you with the idea that you may want to try some of them.
  • Watching movies allows you to explore your fantasies. You may see a fantasy played out onscreen, and can then discuss the fantasy with your partner. Watching it play out may inspire you to try to make your fantasy become reality, or it may make you realize that it’s a great fantasy to talk and think about during sex, but not one you wish to explore in real life.

There is a wide range of erotic styles to be found in erotic movies. Some movies are just sex, no story (called wall-to-wallers because they are just wall-to-wall sex). Other movies are mostly stories, with varying degrees of explicit sex. Instructional movies often provide information as well as explicit demonstrations of sexual activities. We carry women-made erotic movies, and a variety of instructional movies. We also carry a small selection of "mainstream" movies that have been reviewed by us and by some of our customers, and have been found to include well-done sex scenes and consensual, enjoyable sex.

So if you’re a visual person who really likes to watch, this is a good way to get your needs met and maybe learn a new trick or two.

The Sex Counselor