Dear Sex Counselor,
My current girlfriend cums faster when I stimulate her actual pussy. Her clit is hard to find. It is small. Is an orgasm from the clit the same as an orgasm from the pussy?
Orgasms are orgasms, regardless of what you stimulate to achieve them. Orgasms happen partly in the head and partly from actual stimulation; in fact, some women and men can have orgasms just by thinking. So as long as you and your girlfriend communicate well about what she (and you) likes and where she likes to be touched, you can’t go wrong!
The Sex Counselor