Libido

Dear Sex Counselor, I suffer from a low level of sexual desire toward my husband, and it is not because I don’t find him attractive. Please help me find a way to improve or increase my cognitive sense of desire. One of the more destructive myths that floats around out there is that sexual desire should come automatically, and should persist...

Dear Sex Counselor, I am a 42 yr old gay woman who has been in a three year relationship with a 41 yr old woman who is quite active. She is involved in a tennis league and plays regularly, but more importantly, she is a runner and trains extremely hard as she is training for the NYC Marathon this year. I am an active cyclist and will workout at...

Dear Sex Counselor, I have been with the same man for eight years, with an affair or two in between (not hidden; he is also comfortable w/my bi-ness). However, I just am not sexually excited by him or attracted to him at all. In fact, he kind of grosses me out. The rest of our partnership is okay - supportive and loving. What to do? Any ideas?...