How to Choose...

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, I’ve seen harnesses on your website. What are they, and how are they used? How can I choose one that’s right for me? Harnesses are used to hold a dildo against the wearer’s body. Together, a harness and dildo (a.k.a. “strap-on”) can be worn by a woman or man to penetrate a...

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, I’m a little curious about dildos. Why would someone want to use one? How can I choose one that’s the right shape and size for me? Dildos are the oldest sex toys known to humans, with the earliest on record dating back to 5000 BC. Dildos are available in many shapes and sizes...

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, I’m thinking about getting a vibrator, but I don’t know how to pick one.  Why do women use them? How do I know which one is right for me? P.S. I’ve heard vibrators can be addicting. Is this true? Vibrators can be used for all sorts of things: to enhance your pleasure...

There are a variety of possibilities to turn to from here, depending on whether you are most interested in the "erotic romance" genre--stories focusing on explicit erotic scenes in the context of a romantic story (or short stories)--or in the "BDSM erotica" genre, which focuses on a relationship featuring dominance & submission/sensation...

Dear Sex Counselor, There are so many erotic books out there...how do I choose some that are likely to be fun for me to read? The erotic fiction we carry can be split into several categories. First, there are compilations of short stories, written with specific erotic themes and content, including distinct plots and character development....

Dear Sex Counselor, I see quite a few books on orgasms for women here...how do I choose? Contrary to popular belief, orgasms don’t just “happen” to many women. In many cases, it’s hard to know where to begin to learn about your body and what brings you pleasure. Whether you’ve never had an orgasm before, feel as though you can’t have them...

Dear Dr. Myrtle, I enjoy nipple clamps (a lot!), but I worry about causing damage. Can you tell me how long I can leave them on, how tight is safe, and what I should watch for? Nipple clamps increase sensation in two main ways: Because they are clamped on, they cause continuous pressure signals to be sent to your brain. They...