How to choose an erotic movie

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Dear Sex Counselor,

There are an awful lot of erotic movies out there. Are there any differences? How can I choose from the ones you carry?


For many of us, watching other people have sex can spark ideas, fantasies, and arousal to help us make our sex lives more interesting. The trick is to find something that is fun and hot to watch, without getting offended or turned off by the quality or the content.

In this article we’re going to stay focused on sexually explicit erotic DVDs. There are wonderful sexy and romantic R (or R+) rated films available at mainstream video stores, but they are not covered here. At A Woman’s Touch we start by sorting adult films into 4 broad categories:

  • Woman & Couple-friendly Films
  • Mainstream Erotic Stories
  • Classic Erotic Movies
  • Lesbian films made by and for lesbian audiences.

Woman- and Couple-Friendly Films

Perhaps you’re a woman who has never seen an erotic film before, or wants something "classier" than most adult movies. Or perhaps you’re looking for something you can enjoy with your partner. In general, movies we’ve put into this category portray sexuality in a respectful, sensual way (while still being fully explicit); usually have an engaging plot and characters we like; and have production values, acting and/or stories that are superior to most adult fare.

In this category we include the stories produced and directed by Candida Royalle under her Femme Productions label, as well as films by Libido Films. These stories may feature real couples, actors, or a mix of both. There is a lot of passion between the actors, and the acting is relatively easy to watch (and occasionally pretty good). You will see women having real orgasms, and if/when the men ejaculate, it is not shown. There are plots that explore passion and romance, such as Urban Friction, Christine’s Secret, and Three Daughters, and plots that explore the darker or more intense side of desire, such as Ecstatic Moments and Eyes Of Desire Parts 1 and 2.

The Alexander Institute also puts out several instructional films that include fun, sexy and explicit demonstrations of the instructional concepts. Look for Erotic Seduction, Toys for Great Sex, Sex Around the House, and the Modern Kama Sutra series if you want passionate connections between people, excellent lovemaking, and real orgasms for both men and women.

 

Mainstream Erotic Stories

There are lots of films churned out every year by the adult industry. Some just show sex; others include plot, acting, beautiful scenery, and maybe all three of those at once. We carefully screen these and choose those that offer a good plot & acting along with well-crafted sex scenes, but cannot offer specific titles because they come and go so quickly.  Check our site for ones from  Playgirl  (featuring hunky guys and beautiful women in a variety of settings), New Sensations Romance (very explicit with attractive couples and threesomes in many different positions and settings with a bit of plot), and Wicked Passions  (mainstream actors with plot and more kissing and buildup along with very explicit sex scenes).