Communicating about Sex

What to expect and how to prepare: first time vaginal penetration and sexual intercourse

Published: May 3 2011
A woman’s first time having penetrative sex or vaginal intercourse is often an experience filled with fear and anxiety, primarily due to the lack of quality information on what to expect and how to prepare for this important first. So, here’s some practical advice and knowledge on the subject to clear up some of the confusion. First and...

Communicating your desires

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, I am only recently beginning to explore my own sexuality, in terms of my REAL needs and desires, not the things I used to believe I should want. I am in a relationship with a man who has a great deal more experience than I, which I have found intimidating in the past. He has always given me the impression that he is very...

Am I having too much sex?

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, My girlfriend and I have sex at least seven to ten times a week. Sometimes we even have sex that many times in one day. We have only been together for together for 3.5 months. This is my first relationship; however, my girlfriend has been involved in serious relationships before. (She is 20 and I am 18.) We are both college...

Same-sex feelings and experimentation

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, I am 13 and I am a virgin ... sort of. Last summer my best girlfriend and I started doing something I feel "funny" about. We have talked about boys for years but have never tried anything. One night on a sleepover last summer, we practiced kissing each other, pretending to kiss a boy. She said we were "practicing our...

Letting her know I have a crush on her

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor,I'm a 19 year old woman. I'm attractive and have had two relationships with girls. I find myself attracted to a girlfriend but don't know how to tell her without ruining our friendship. I find myself dressing sexy for her, but she is not responding. Please help. You've asked a really great question! Many of us find it really...