Function: Libido, Interest, and Desire

Sex for Pleasure vs. Sex for Gain

Published: May 22 2014
People are sexual for all sorts of reasons, and far and away the primary reason people participate in sexual activity of any kind is for the purpose of pleasure. It’s odd that although humans are wired for pleasure (limbic brain: ancient, well defined, neurobiological reward and pleasure systems), cultures often underemphasize healthy, non...

AWT's Three Facets of Libido

Published: May 21 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I recently attended a women's health conference, and the presenter showed men's libidos as a straight line (actually the Tower of Piza), and women's libido as a knotted ball of spaghetti. Is this true? I sure know a lot of women whose libido is pretty straight forward, and men who are tied up in little performance...

Understanding Libido

Published: May 21 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I thought I understood that libido was an uncontrollable force that we essentially get dragged around by. Your sex counselor says that I can do things to change my libido, but is that true? How can I change something that acts ON me?   Libido is your personal, sexual psychic force. Because we are only...

Desire is Not Required for Sexual Satisfaction, Study Reports

Published: Jan 7 2012
A woman's sexual satisfaction does not require high levels of sexual desire--and in fact, does not require sexual activity at all, according to a new study that finds rates of sexual satisfaction highest among the youngest and oldest women it surveyed. The study, which included more than 800 women between age 40 and 100, found that those under...

Libido and pre-menopausal women

Published: Aug 13 2007
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I’d like to get some confirmation on my experience that my interest in sex goes in waves that roughly correlate with my menstrual cycle. Am I really changing estrogen quantities sufficiently to go from nymphomaniac to happy celibate? Sexual desire, also know as "libido", is probably one of the most under...

Diabetes and sex drive

Published: Apr 2 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, My husband has recently become impotent. We are both 34 years old, and he is diabetic. The problem started about a year ago and has grown increasingly worse - at this time he is unable to maintain an erection at all. To say the least, I am not taking this well and believe it to be psychosomatic; he believes it is medical. I have...

Libido and birth control pills

Published: Dec 13 2010
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I heard that birth control pills decrease sex drive in women. Is this true? Is there any way to increase the sex drive without going off the pill? I am on quite a low dose already. Birth control pills work because they replicate the hormonal signals of pregnancy. In other words, new pregnancies can’t occur because the body...

Athletes and libido

Published: Apr 1 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, My lover is a 27-year-old man who has a very low sex drive. He tells me that this has not always been the case. He is an athlete, training for marathons and eating an extremely low-fat diet. I realize that one does not always have the libido of an 18-year-old, but I’m wondering if his exercise and diet regime may be...

Low Libido after Delivery

Published: Jun 1 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Since delivery, I have had very little interest in sex. It is not at all uncommon for new parents to experience a drop in libido. If you experienced a difficult delivery, especially a Cesarean birth, you may still be physically recuperating. Any delivery can cause bleeding, and recovery can be slow as you your body rebounds...