Orgasms

How do I know if I've had an orgasm?

Published: Sep 26 2008
Dear Sex Counselor I have a long-distance relationship. I probably only see my boyfriend maybe one week out of the month if I’m lucky. Anyway, he likes to have phone sex. I’d never done this before, so at first I was uncomfortable with it. I had also never masturbated by myself before. Now that I have the hang of it, and I know what he wants to...

I don't have orgasms...what can I do?

Published: Oct 14 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, The subject of orgasms has been a very touchy subject for me. I get embarrassed when it is mentioned to me. The reason for this is that I have never had an orgasm. The few men that I have slept with begin to wonder why I cannot orgasm. In the past they have never asked me about it, but when our sex life came to an end I...

Woman slow to orgasm

Published: Oct 14 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I know that orgasms are clitorally produced, but my clitoris does not seem to be very sensitive. I have found that I can not reach an orgasm unless my boyfriend and I are very rough. It is often difficult to reach an orgasm at all, and I am starting to get a little bit frustrated. I also feel that my boyfriend may be getting...

Women's orgasms

Published: Sep 10 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, My current girlfriend cums faster when I stimulate her actual pussy. Her clit is hard to find. It is small. Is an orgasm from the clit the same as an orgasm from the pussy? Orgasms are orgasms, regardless of what you stimulate to achieve them. Orgasms happen partly in the head and partly from actual stimulation; in fact,...

How to change how I have orgasms?

Published: Sep 10 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I’m 40 years old, reasonably orgasmic, but there’s a catch: I can only come if I masturbate in a rather strange way. I must have learned it as a young child, but I can only reach orgasm if I kind of "hump" the end of a bed, sofa, or other kind of soft/kind of firm surface. It usually takes quite a while, too. I am too...

Masturbating, but can't have an orgasm

Published: Sep 26 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I am an 18-year-old woman and have been masturbating regularly since I was 14. I have been able to bring myself close to orgasm with fingers and then again with a vibrator, but I haven’t had an orgasm. I’ve tried using a massaging showerhead to stimulate myself, but nothing seems to work. Is there any other techniques, etc....

I used to have more, better orgasms...

Published: Sep 10 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I have been with one man for all my sex life. I am currently engaged to him. We have been having sex for over a year now. He was my first and will be my only partner. In the beginning, he knew more than I did, as I was a virgin and he was not. From the start I was a multi-orgasmic woman, and my orgasms were very powerful....

More, better orgasms

Published: Sep 10 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, When my boyfriend and I are just playing, he can have multiple orgasms that can last for a while. I have a very hard time achieving an orgasm, and when I do it doesn’t last very long so I never really get to enjoy it. So I was wondering if there was anything I could do to make my orgasms longer and more frequent? One way...

More about orgasms with and without vibrator assistance

Published: Sep 26 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I have trouble orgasming unless I use my vibrator (plug in, medium size) and lately I’ve found that I can’t orgasm unless I am using it. Is it possible that I could have damaged the nerves in my clitoris somehow?? I am happily married, love to masturbate, have no problem telling my husband where and how to touch me, but...

Male Multiple Orgasms

Published: Mar 14 2006
Dear Sex Counselor, I have heard that a man - just like a woman - can have multiple orgasms before he comes to a full ejaculation. If this is true, I would like to know how can I achieve it in order for me to last longer in bed with my mate and be able to share in an orgasm together simultaneously. Yes, it’s true that men can learn to hold...

Masturbation How-to for Women

Published: Sep 26 2008
Click here to download a pdf brochure about Masturbation for Women. Dear Sex Counselor, I was raised to believe that masturbation is an "evil" and "unholy" thing. As I’ve grown older, I’ve come to realize that that, of course, isn’t true; but now my problem is that I want to try it, but I really am not sure of what to do. I am a virgin and...