How to Choose...

How to safely use nipple clamps

Published: Jan 21 2008
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I enjoy nipple clamps (a lot!), but I worry about causing damage. Can you tell me how long I can leave them on, how tight is safe, and what I should watch for? Nipple clamps increase sensation in two main ways: Because they are clamped on, they cause continuous pressure signals to be sent to your brain. They...

How to choose a book on women's orgasms

Published: Oct 14 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I see quite a few books on orgasms for women here...how do I choose? Contrary to popular belief, orgasms don’t just “happen” to many women. In many cases, it’s hard to know where to begin to learn about your body and what brings you pleasure. Whether you’ve never had an orgasm before, feel as though you can’t have them...

How to choose written erotica

Published: Oct 14 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, There are so many erotic books out there...how do I choose some that are likely to be fun for me to read? The erotic fiction we carry can be split into several categories. First, there are compilations of short stories, written with specific erotic themes and content, including distinct plots and character development....

How to choose a dildo

Published: Oct 14 2008
Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, I’m a little curious about dildos. Why would someone want to use one? How can I choose one that’s the right shape and size for me? Dildos are the oldest sex toys known to humans, with the earliest on record dating back to 5000 BC. Dildos are available in many shapes and sizes...

How to choose a harness

Published: Oct 14 2008
Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, I’ve seen harnesses on your website. What are they, and how are they used? How can I choose one that’s right for me? Harnesses are used to hold a dildo against the wearer’s body. Together, a harness and dildo (a.k.a. “strap-on”) can be worn by a woman or man to penetrate a...

How to choose a game

Published: Oct 7 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I see a lot of different games to play with my partner, but I can’t seem to choose. Can you help? If you want to start an intimate conversation with your partner, but don't exactly know how to start.  Having a game handy like the, Intimate 4Play game, might be just what you need to get you talking, sharing, laughing...

How to choose an erotic movie

Published: Oct 14 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, There are an awful lot of erotic movies out there. Are there any differences? How can I choose from the ones you carry? For many of us, watching other people have sex can spark ideas, fantasies, and arousal to help us make our sex lives more interesting. The trick is to find something that is fun and hot to watch, without...

How to choose a massage oil or cream

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, How do I know which massage oils or creams are best for me? Thinking of a nice massage? A nice warm room, comfy sheets and towels, dim lights, soothing music, a bowl of warm water to heat your massage oil, and you’re ready for your massage. But do you ever feel overwhelmed when trying to select just the right product...

Men's Sex Toys

Published: Oct 21 2008
Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, I am interested in getting a sex toy specifically designed for a man, but I don’t know where to begin. What are my choices? There are several different types of sex toys made specifically for men. At A Woman’s Touch, you’ll find men’s toys that fit into four broad categories:...

How to choose my first vibrator

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I’ve finally worked up the courage to buy myself a vibrator. I’ve never used one before, and I’m feeling overwhelmed by all the choices. Can you give me any guidelines? I want my first vibrator to be one that I’ll like. Congratulations on buying your first vibrator! I understand how overwhelming it can be to look at all...

How to choose a Kegel exercise tool

Published: Aug 27 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I want to start doing Kegel exercises, and I see you have several Kegel exercise "tools" available on your site. How do I choose the one that’s best for me? First, congratulations on starting to do your Kegels! Strong pelvic floor muscles have lots of benefits, from better orgasms to a decreased risk of incontinence. If...

How to choose restraints (bondage)

Published: Oct 14 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, My partner wants to see what it’s like to be tied up during sex. I’m open to the idea, but I’m kind of nervous and I need some more information first! I don’t know anything about tying knots, and I’m not really into that whole domination thing...how can I make this work for me and my partner? Using restraint during sex...

How to choose a book about bondage

Published: Aug 6 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I’m curious about bondage, and I heard that you should read about it before you start doing it. With all the bondage books out there, how do I pick the one that will be best for me? All of the bondage books we carry will give you enough information to begin your exploration of bondage. However, they each have their own...

Books for Moms about Sex

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, Can you recommend any books that give moms or moms-to-be information about maintaining a healthy sex life, both during and after pregnancy? Maintaining a healthy sex life is important to many moms and moms-to-be. Pregnant women and women who have recently given birth often find themselves wondering what’s "healthy" or ...

Harness size chart

Published: Oct 14 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, There are so many harnesses ... how do I choose one that will fit me? In general, you should measure your hips or waist (wherever you want to wear the harness) and use that measurement to choose a harness that fits you. Our harnesses are sized as follows:   Hip Harnesses Hip or Waist...

What's good for body massage and safe to use as a lubricant?

Published: Oct 8 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I like to give my partner whole-body massages, and they sometimes lead to intercourse. I know oils don’t make good sexual lubricants (and that they can make holes in condoms). Are there any products I can use for massage and for sexual intercourse? It’s a dilemma. We don’t recommend using massage oil on the genitals,...

Harness for really small hips?

Published: Oct 14 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I have a very small hip size (24")... its hard for me to find a strap-on harness that will work. I am looking for one that will fit me "perfectly". Do you have any that will fit me? There are a few that could work: The Pleasure Principle is a very adjustable harness that will go to the size you need, and offers...

Female Condoms

Published: May 9 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, What can you tell me about the female condom? Structural Details of the Female Condom The female condom is made up of a long polyurethane sheath that lines the walls of the vagina and is anchored at each end by flexible polyurethane rings. The ring at the closed end rests over the cervix (like a diaphragm or cervical...

Oils as Sexual Lubricants: pros & cons

Published: Jun 2 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Can’t I use oil as a sexual lubricant? Maybe. Oils are lubricants, and some people use them as sexual lubricants without any problem whatsoever. As long as you know yourself, your needs, and the potential issues involved, you may be able to use oils sexually. But before you do, consider all of the facts. The Oily Debate ...

How to choose a lubricant

Published: Dec 6 2007
Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Dr. Myrtle, I see ads for personal lubricants but they don’t explain much. What should I know about a lubricant before I buy one? --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Lubricants increase pleasure. Your genital...

Condoms and Barriers

Published: Jul 22 2006
Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Dr. Myrtle, I want to protect myself, but it seems weird or geeky to whip out some latex. How can I make using condoms more fun? Condoms and other barriers (such as gloves and dams) allow people to explore their sexuality more safely. If you’ve decided to be sexual with someone else,...

How to choose a game

Published: Oct 7 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, My partner and I would like to get a sexy game to play together, but I'm not sure how to choose one. Can you help? Games are a great way to have fun with a partner while discovering or introducing new ideas to your erotic play. Here’s a guide to help you choose a sexy game or two to make your playtime more exciting. We...

Ben Wa Balls, Pleasure Balls, Kegel Eggs..What's the Difference?

Published: Feb 12 2013
The popular book trilogy, 50 Shades of Grey, included a mention of some wearable balls (named Ben Wa Balls in the book) that apparently caused great pleasure to the woman wearing them. Whether you've been reading erotica that mentions Ben Wa Balls, looking for something fun to wear when you are out and about, or wondering how you can strengthen...

How to Choose a Nipple Toy

Published: Mar 2 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, I really like it when my partner plays with my nipples, and I've been thinking of bringing a toy or two to the bedroom. But there are so many nipple toys on your website! Where should I start? Our nipple toys can be divided into two main categories – clamps and suction toys. We also have a variety of breast and nipple...

How to Choose Condoms

Published: Feb 7 2009
Dr. Myrtle, How can I figure out which condom is best for my needs? We've put together a handy guide to give you as much information as possible about the variety of condoms we carry.  Download our condom comparison chart inside our Condoms & Barriers Brochure. You'll get exact information about the length, width, color,...

Lubricant Comparison Chart

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Dr. Myrtle, Your descriptions of lubricants are helpful, but do you have a chart or anything so I can compare them side by side? We're so glad you asked! We've put together this handy lubricant comparison chart that gives you information about the consistency (thickness or thinness), ingredients, taste, moisturizing properties, and other...

How to choose a DVD about positions

Published: Jun 23 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, I am looking for a DVD on Positions, but I notice you offer a lot of different options.  How do I choose? Instructional films on positions are excellent resources to learn new ways to broaden your sexual repertoire, help you spark conversations on what you like, as well as simply being visually and sensually arousing...