How to Choose...

Dear Dr. Myrtle, I enjoy nipple clamps (a lot!), but I worry about causing damage. Can you tell me how long I can leave them on, how tight is safe, and what I should watch for? Nipple clamps increase sensation in two main ways: Because they are clamped on, they cause continuous pressure signals to be sent to your brain. They...

Dear Sex Counselor, I see quite a few books on orgasms for women here...how do I choose? Contrary to popular belief, orgasms don’t just “happen” to many women. In many cases, it’s hard to know where to begin to learn about your body and what brings you pleasure. Whether you’ve never had an orgasm before, feel as though you can’t have them...

There are a variety of possibilities to turn to from here, depending on whether you are most interested in the "erotic romance" genre--stories focusing on explicit erotic scenes in the context of a romantic story (or short stories)--or in the "BDSM erotica" genre, which focuses on a relationship featuring dominance & submission/sensation...

Dear Sex Counselor, There are so many erotic books out there...how do I choose some that are likely to be fun for me to read? The erotic fiction we carry can be split into several categories. First, there are compilations of short stories, written with specific erotic themes and content, including distinct plots and character development....

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, I’m thinking about getting a vibrator, but I don’t know how to pick one.  Why do women use them? How do I know which one is right for me? P.S. I’ve heard vibrators can be addicting. Is this true? Vibrators can be used for all sorts of things: to enhance your pleasure...

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, I’m a little curious about dildos. Why would someone want to use one? How can I choose one that’s the right shape and size for me? Dildos are the oldest sex toys known to humans, with the earliest on record dating back to 5000 BC. Dildos are available in many shapes and sizes...

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, I’ve seen harnesses on your website. What are they, and how are they used? How can I choose one that’s right for me? Harnesses are used to hold a dildo against the wearer’s body. Together, a harness and dildo (a.k.a. “strap-on”) can be worn by a woman or man to penetrate a...

Dear Sex Counselor, I see a lot of different games to play with my partner, but I can’t seem to choose. Can you help? If you want to start an intimate conversation with your partner, but don't exactly know how to start.  Having a game handy like the, Intimate 4Play game, might be just what you need to get you talking, sharing, laughing...

Dear Sex Counselor, There are an awful lot of erotic movies out there. Are there any differences? How can I choose from the ones you carry? For many of us, watching other people have sex can spark ideas, fantasies, and arousal to help us make our sex lives more interesting. The trick is to find something that is fun and hot to watch, without...

Dear Sex Counselor, How do I know which massage oils or creams are best for me? Thinking of a nice massage? A nice warm room, comfy sheets and towels, dim lights, soothing music, a bowl of warm water to heat your massage oil, and you’re ready for your massage. But do you ever feel overwhelmed when trying to select just the right product...

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, I am interested in getting a sex toy specifically designed for a man, but I don’t know where to begin. What are my choices? There are several different types of sex toys made specifically for men. At A Woman’s Touch, you’ll find men’s toys that fit into four broad categories:...

Dear Sex Counselor, I’ve finally worked up the courage to buy myself a vibrator. I’ve never used one before, and I’m feeling overwhelmed by all the choices. Can you give me any guidelines? I want my first vibrator to be one that I’ll like. Congratulations on buying your first vibrator! I understand how overwhelming it can be to look at all...

Dear Sex Counselor, I want to start doing Kegel exercises, and I see you have several Kegel exercise "tools" available on your site. How do I choose the one that’s best for me? First, congratulations on starting to do your Kegels! Strong pelvic floor muscles have lots of benefits, from better orgasms to a decreased risk of incontinence. If...

Dear Sex Counselor, I’m interested in learning more about the Kama Sutra. You have a lot of books on the topic; how do I know which one is right for me? Ah, the Kama Sutra. So mysterious, so magical. Visions of dusky bodies twined like creepers around tree trunks and murmuring sweet, accented nothings. Yes, the Kama Sutra and related...

Dear Sex Counselor, My partner wants to see what it’s like to be tied up during sex. I’m open to the idea, but I’m kind of nervous and I need some more information first! I don’t know anything about tying knots, and I’m not really into that whole domination thing...how can I make this work for me and my partner? Using restraint during sex...

Dear Sex Counselor, I’m curious about bondage, and I heard that you should read about it before you start doing it. With all the bondage books out there, how do I pick the one that will be best for me? All of the bondage books we carry will give you enough information to begin your exploration of bondage. However, they each have their own...

Dear Sex Counselor, Can you recommend any books that give moms or moms-to-be information about maintaining a healthy sex life, both during and after pregnancy? Maintaining a healthy sex life is important to many moms and moms-to-be. Pregnant women and women who have recently given birth often find themselves wondering what’s "healthy" or ...

Dear Sex Counselor, There are so many harnesses ... how do I choose one that will fit me? In general, you should measure your hips or waist (wherever you want to wear the harness) and use that measurement to choose a harness that fits you. Our harnesses are sized as follows:   Hip Harnesses Hip or Waist...

Dear Sex Counselor, I like to give my partner whole-body massages, and they sometimes lead to intercourse. I know oils don’t make good sexual lubricants (and that they can make holes in condoms). Are there any products I can use for massage and for sexual intercourse? It’s a dilemma. We don’t recommend using massage oil on the genitals,...

Dear Sex Counselor, I see some different remote-controlled wearable vibrators on your website. How do they compare in terms of quality, loudness, variability of sensation and wearability for a 1X size woman? On the one that has straps instead of a panty, is it difficult to keep it properly positioned? Of the remote-controlled items that we...

Dear Sex Counselor, What the difference between using a cock ring or a simple rubber / elastic band? Won’t a rubber band do just as well? A rubber band is not adjustable, and also can cut into the skin in an uncomfortable way. Most commercial erection rings have rounded edges, or wider bands so that they don’t cut into the skin and cause...

Dear Sex Counselor, I have a very small hip size (24")... its hard for me to find a strap-on harness that will work. I am looking for one that will fit me "perfectly". Do you have any that will fit me? There are a few that could work: The Pleasure Principle is a very adjustable harness that will go to the size you need, and offers...

Dear Dr. Myrtle, What can you tell me about the female condom? Structural Details of the Female Condom The female condom is made up of a long polyurethane sheath that lines the walls of the vagina and is anchored at each end by flexible polyurethane rings. The ring at the closed end rests over the cervix (like a diaphragm or cervical...

Dear Dr. Myrtle, I use lubricant sometimes: either KY jelly or Vaseline. Is there something wrong with those? There is definitely something wrong with using any oil-based or petroleum product in the vagina. Vaseline is an oil based petroleum product that is very difficult to naturally clear out of the vaginal space. It can cause something...

Dear Dr. Myrtle, Can’t I use oil as a sexual lubricant? Maybe. Oils are lubricants, and some people use them as sexual lubricants without any problem whatsoever. As long as you know yourself, your needs, and the potential issues involved, you may be able to use oils sexually. But before you do, consider all of the facts. The Oily Debate ...

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Dr. Myrtle, I see ads for personal lubricants but they don’t explain much. What should I know about a lubricant before I buy one? --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Lubricants increase pleasure. Your genital...

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Sex Counselor, My partner and I have beautiful sex together, and we are curious about exploring anal sex. I must say that every time my lover touches my anus, it is quite exciting. Do you have any suggestions? All of us have sensitive nerve endings around the anus and rectum that can produce...

Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Dr. Myrtle, I want to protect myself, but it seems weird or geeky to whip out some latex. How can I make using condoms more fun? Condoms and other barriers (such as gloves and dams) allow people to explore their sexuality more safely. If you’ve decided to be sexual with someone else,...

Dear Sex Counselor, My partner and I would like to get a sexy game to play together, but I'm not sure how to choose one. Can you help? Games are a great way to have fun with a partner while discovering or introducing new ideas to your erotic play. Here’s a guide to help you choose a sexy game or two to make your playtime more exciting. We...

The popular book trilogy, 50 Shades of Grey, included a mention of some wearable balls (named Ben Wa Balls in the book) that apparently caused great pleasure to the woman wearing them. Whether you've been reading erotica that mentions Ben Wa Balls, looking for something fun to wear when you are out and about, or wondering how you can strengthen...

Dear Sex Counselor, I really like it when my partner plays with my nipples, and I've been thinking of bringing a toy or two to the bedroom. But there are so many nipple toys on your website! Where should I start? Our nipple toys can be divided into two main categories – clamps and suction toys. We also have a variety of breast and nipple...

Dr. Myrtle, How can I figure out which condom is best for my needs? We've put together a handy guide to give you as much information as possible about the variety of condoms we carry.  Download our condom comparison chart inside our Condoms & Barriers Brochure. You'll get exact information about the length, width, color,...

So you want to be more green. You want to lessen your impact on our planet and choose products that contribute to this goal. You've heard all about how to "go green" with your car, your home, your food choices...but now you're wondering, what about pleasure toys? How can you reduce your carbon footprint while pursuing pleasure? How do you find...

I am wondering how I can tell the difference between the different instructional movies you have for sale. Can you help? ___________________________________________________________________ We have divided our instructional films into several categories to help make your purchasing decisions easier. Instructional films with a more ...

Dear Sex Counselor, I am looking for a DVD on Positions, but I notice you offer a lot of different options.  How do I choose? Instructional films on positions are excellent resources to learn new ways to broaden your sexual repertoire, help you spark conversations on what you like, as well as simply being visually and sensually arousing...