Communicating about Sex

Are my fantasies sick?

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, I'm not certain if I'm asking a question, so much as asking for insight. I don't believe I was a victim of physical sexual abuse, but wonder if perhaps I've been a victim psychologically. I don't know how to find the source of this bothersome mind process, if there is a source, or if I should be concerned about it in the...

Defining virginity

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, My girlfriend and I have decided to wait until we are married to have sexual intercourse. We are both virgins, and we are wondering if we were to have anal sex, would it affect her virginity in any way? Will I be considered to be "losing my virginity" also? The answer really depends on how you decide to define virginity....

What is a step-parent's role in educating a partner's kids?

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, As a step-parent, what responsibilities do I have to teach my teenage step-daughters about sex? I just married a woman with 11- and 13-year-old daughters. I have two sons, and know absolutely nothing about girls. The girls seem to be sexually active - their talk, dress and companions indicate that. Is that possible at this...

Married and bisexual

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, I'm bisexual and my husband doesn't know. I'm wondering how many are in the same situation? I love my husband dearly but feel like I need the love of a woman, too. I'm scared to do so, though, and wouldn't even know how or where to start. Any advice would be appreciated. From our experience in our store, and via...

Introducing my partner to bondage

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, I have always liked to be tied up. I think its a real turn-on. I do not know how to broach this subject with my boyfriend. I would be embarrassed to tell him this. We have an extremely hot sexual relationship right now with very few inhibitions. Is there any way I can hint at this without saying it outright? I assure you...

Letting her know I have a crush on her

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor,I'm a 19 year old woman. I'm attractive and have had two relationships with girls. I find myself attracted to a girlfriend but don't know how to tell her without ruining our friendship. I find myself dressing sexy for her, but she is not responding. Please help. You've asked a really great question! Many of us find it really...

Same-sex feelings and experimentation

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, I am 13 and I am a virgin ... sort of. Last summer my best girlfriend and I started doing something I feel "funny" about. We have talked about boys for years but have never tried anything. One night on a sleepover last summer, we practiced kissing each other, pretending to kiss a boy. She said we were "practicing our...

Am I having too much sex?

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, My girlfriend and I have sex at least seven to ten times a week. Sometimes we even have sex that many times in one day. We have only been together for together for 3.5 months. This is my first relationship; however, my girlfriend has been involved in serious relationships before. (She is 20 and I am 18.) We are both college...

Communicating your desires

Published: Jan 15 2009
Dear Sex Counselor, I am only recently beginning to explore my own sexuality, in terms of my REAL needs and desires, not the things I used to believe I should want. I am in a relationship with a man who has a great deal more experience than I, which I have found intimidating in the past. He has always given me the impression that he is very...

What to expect and how to prepare: first time vaginal penetration and sexual intercourse

Published: May 3 2011
A woman’s first time having penetrative sex or vaginal intercourse is often an experience filled with fear and anxiety, primarily due to the lack of quality information on what to expect and how to prepare for this important first. So, here’s some practical advice and knowledge on the subject to clear up some of the confusion. First and...