Ask Dr. Myrtle

Abnormally large clitoris?

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Dear Dr. Myrtle, I know that every woman is built differently. But is a extra large clit a rare thing? Mine kind of looks like the head of a baby boy’s penis and is about 1/2 inch long.  It’s true that the clitoris varies greatly from person to person. Some of it depends on what hormones you were exposed to when you were a fetus, and...

Disappearing Testicles

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Dear Dr. Myrtle, I don’t know whether this is a problem, but I have noticed that when I self-pleasure or have sex, one or both of my testicles "disappear" up into my body. Is this a problem? When people become sexually aroused, a number of different muscles involuntarily contract, which regulates everything from blood supply to positioning...

Clitoral Erections

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Dear Dr. Myrtle, Do women really get erections? How can they--they don’t have a penis! Technically, it isn't a penis that becomes erect. The clitoral caverns inside of the penis are the structures that become engorged and erect. So when the clitoral caverns swell with blood flowing into the clitoris, it pushes on the penis, so that from the...

Nerves, Big Overview

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If you're wondering how I think about nerve systems, this diagram might help. Notice the orange highlights, which represent important nitric-oxide-producing nerve systems. Nitric oxide gas can be used (in a basic sense) for pleasure and nurturance, or inflammation and pain.    You see, the gas nitric oxide is important for sexual...

Embryonic Sexual Development

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Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus. Nope. All humans have been born on Earth so far.  Culturally, men and women may interact as aliens, but anatomically, they are strikingly similar.   Well, men are different than women, right? Between the sexes, there are more similarities than differences, so I’d go with...

Low Libido after Delivery

Published: Jun 1 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Since delivery, I have had very little interest in sex. It is not at all uncommon for new parents to experience a drop in libido. If you experienced a difficult delivery, especially a Cesarean birth, you may still be physically recuperating. Any delivery can cause bleeding, and recovery can be slow as you your body rebounds...

Athletes and libido

Published: Apr 1 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, My lover is a 27-year-old man who has a very low sex drive. He tells me that this has not always been the case. He is an athlete, training for marathons and eating an extremely low-fat diet. I realize that one does not always have the libido of an 18-year-old, but I’m wondering if his exercise and diet regime may be...

Libido and birth control pills

Published: Dec 13 2010
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I heard that birth control pills decrease sex drive in women. Is this true? Is there any way to increase the sex drive without going off the pill? I am on quite a low dose already. Birth control pills work because they replicate the hormonal signals of pregnancy. In other words, new pregnancies can’t occur because the body...

Diabetes and sex drive

Published: Apr 2 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, My husband has recently become impotent. We are both 34 years old, and he is diabetic. The problem started about a year ago and has grown increasingly worse - at this time he is unable to maintain an erection at all. To say the least, I am not taking this well and believe it to be psychosomatic; he believes it is medical. I have...

Libido and pre-menopausal women

Published: Aug 13 2007
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I’d like to get some confirmation on my experience that my interest in sex goes in waves that roughly correlate with my menstrual cycle. Am I really changing estrogen quantities sufficiently to go from nymphomaniac to happy celibate? Sexual desire, also know as "libido", is probably one of the most under...

Desire is Not Required for Sexual Satisfaction, Study Reports

Published: Jan 7 2012
A woman's sexual satisfaction does not require high levels of sexual desire--and in fact, does not require sexual activity at all, according to a new study that finds rates of sexual satisfaction highest among the youngest and oldest women it surveyed. The study, which included more than 800 women between age 40 and 100, found that those under...

Understanding Libido

Published: May 21 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I thought I understood that libido was an uncontrollable force that we essentially get dragged around by. Your sex counselor says that I can do things to change my libido, but is that true? How can I change something that acts ON me?   Libido is your personal, sexual psychic force. Because we are only...

AWT's Three Facets of Libido

Published: May 21 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I recently attended a women's health conference, and the presenter showed men's libidos as a straight line (actually the Tower of Piza), and women's libido as a knotted ball of spaghetti. Is this true? I sure know a lot of women whose libido is pretty straight forward, and men who are tied up in little performance...

Sex for Pleasure vs. Sex for Gain

Published: May 22 2014
People are sexual for all sorts of reasons, and far and away the primary reason people participate in sexual activity of any kind is for the purpose of pleasure. It’s odd that although humans are wired for pleasure (limbic brain: ancient, well defined, neurobiological reward and pleasure systems), cultures often underemphasize healthy, non...

Delayed Ejaculation

Published: Jan 9 2010
Dear Dr. Myrtle-- Lately, it's been taking me a really long time to be able to ejaculate and have an orgasm. Why is this happening? There are a variety of reasons that men may be unable to orgasm and ejaculate, a condition known as delayed ejaculation (DE) or ejaculatory delay. DE is defined as the inability to orgasm and ejaculate within a...

I can't quite get to an orgasm when I'm with my partner.

Published: Mar 19 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I can have an orgasm when I'm by myself, but I can’t have an orgasm with my partner. Why is this happening? The following post goes beyond purely technical issues that might be involved, such as what body parts you have and how you are using them. We're going to look deeper into some issues that can impact arousal capacity...

Anorgasmia and Anti-depressants

Published: Apr 1 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Why am I not having orgasms since I started taking antidepressants? I’m a lot happier since I started my antidepressant medication, but ... it’s a weird thing ... I can’t seem to have orgasms anymore. It’s not like I want to be depressed, but this isn’t a great trade-off. Any suggestions? It&rsquo...

Eager Ejaculation and what you can do

Published: Apr 13 2006
Download PDF brochure version. Dear Dr. Myrtle, Try as I might, I can’t seem to last as long as I’d like to. How can I prolong sexual penetration without coming? In books and movies, our culture glorifies the mad, passionate rush to intercourse as the ultimate sexual experience.  Unfortunately, frenzied sexual experiences can sometimes...

Using a penis pump

Published: Apr 4 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Why use a penis pump? Do penis pumps really enlarge the penis for any length of time? Penis pumps work to pull more blood into the penis than would normally be present during engorgement resulting from sexual arousal. The result is a slightly larger, firmer penis that is more sensitive to contact. This enlargement is not long...

Arousal & Tantric Sexuality

Published: Mar 25 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, What is "Tantric sex"? Tantric Sexuality generally refers to a process of integration between Eastern spiritual mind focus and a physical sexual connection between lovers. "Mind-Body" connection is one way to think of it, but really that’s too simplistic. Tantra is as much about being aware of your own mind-body connection...

What does self-pleasuring have to do with having orgasms with my partner?

Published: Mar 19 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle I keep hearing about the importance of self-pleasure, but I’m not sure why I should. I'm only interested in sex with my partner. Statistically, people express higher levels of sexual happiness when they are able to persuade their own body to higher levels of sexual arousal. So the short answer to your question is that even if...

Arousal & Chocolate

Published: Mar 20 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Does chocolate actually has an effect on sexual arousal? How does it work? Eat 4 ounces of 70% chocolate, and call me in the morning. Looking for a quick, easy boost for your sexual arousal? Eat dark chocolate, (“straight-up” without other toffee, caramel, sugar-dense junk on it), every day in several doses. Not only will...

Biochemistry of Sexual Arousal

Published: May 23 2014
Nitric oxide is the Neurotransmitter of Sex.  The entire human body relies on two critical gasses to survive and thrive. One is oxygen, which we get from the air we breathe. But to move oxygen around into tissue more than 2 mm thick, we need blood flow. To get blood to flow through small blood vessels, our body manufactures a gas called...

Sex after Hysterectomy

Published: Feb 21 2007
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I am 44 year old and had a hysterectomy because of a tumor. I was not sexually active prior to the surgery. I am now in a relationship that could be sexual, but I am nervous. Will the hysterectomy affect my performance? Should I continue to have pelvic exams if I don’t have my uterus, but still have my ovaries? First, yes...

Premature Ejaculation - Part 1

Published: Apr 4 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, After several months as friends, my dance partner and I have decided to fulfill each other’s desires. We have had a very strong sexual tension from the moment we met. Just recently we started becoming more touchy, and she has made it clear that she is ready for us to act on our desires. My fear is that when the time comes...

Painful anal sex

Published: Mar 26 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I have some questions about painful anal sex.We took a big jump the other night with a rather large butt plug. It hurt, and I bled a fair amount. I don’t even really like anal stimulation, but my partner enjoys it a great deal. Is there anything you can suggest that will make this more pleasant for me? First, if anything...

Vulvodynia and Vulvar Pain

Published: May 16 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Why is my vulva so sensitive? I’ve been told I may have vulvodynia. What is vulvodynia? What can be done to treat it? There are many potential causes for pain in the vulvar region, and the term "vulvodynia" is a word that describes a variety of conditions. Vulvodyina, or chronic vulvar discomfort, is characterized by burning...

His penis is too big

Published: May 6 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I am with a new guy, who for the first time I thought could be "the one." After a month and half of hand holding, kissing, and touching. I was ready to make love. He undresses me I undress him, and I get a "big" shock. I’m not trying to be funny, but his penis is so big his father had to be part horse!...

His penis is too long...I think

Published: Apr 3 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I am a 19-year-old woman. I am very small, only 5’0" and 76 pounds. My boyfriend has a very long penis (about 9-10").We have had sex about five times, and it hurts really bad when he reaches a certain depth. Could it be that he is hitting my cervix? Is this what hurts? Could it cause medical problems? Is there a way to stop the...

How to use a Kegel Exercise Tool

Published: Mar 20 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I see you mention an exercise egg to help me strengthen my vaginal and pelvic floor muscles by doing Kegels. How do I use this tool? What are the advantages to using a tool to do Kegels? Pelvic floor exercise tools act as biofeedback tools and help you know if and when you are contracting your pelvic floow muscles correctly....

Hemorrhoids and anal sex

Published: May 17 2006
Dear Dr. MyrtleI think I’ve developed hemorrhoids as a consequence of anal sex. Help!It is uncommon for people to develop hemorrhoids because of anal sex. Why? Because people who enjoy comfortable anal penetration have good conscious control of their anal muscles and pelvic floor muscles, and thus are better at relaxing at the time of a...

What causes vaginal bleeding?

Published: Apr 6 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, The other night, my partner was using her fingers to pleasure my vagina, and I started bleeding. The bleeding stopped right away. I know it wasn’t my period, because my usual period stopped about two weeks ago. I was wondering if you had any suggestions as to why this happened. Think about vaginal bleeding in two general...

Will anal sex play cause incontinence?

Published: May 17 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I just read the information you have on anal sex. I have a health question. My boyfriend and I have a large butt plug for me (I’m a woman). Is there any danger that my sphincter may get TOO stretched out? When I get old will I be more likely to have need for adult diapers? I am concerned. This is a very common concern,...

Vaginal Farts

Published: Mar 17 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I have searched for an answer to this problem to no avail. Whenever my boyfriend and I have sex, we like the "doggy" position. The problem is, after a while I get these rude sounds emitting from my vagina, like a fart. After a while, as soon as the air starts building up, I start drying up, and that hurts. And then, sometimes...

Why No Enemas?

Published: Mar 20 2017
Dear Dr. Myrtle, On the subject of enemas: You said something to the effect that it’s not good to have/use/administer to oneself an enema before anal sex, but I found a hundred websites of the opinion that there’s nothing harmful about enema-ing and that it just may be beneficial...such as Columbia University’s Go Ask Alice! Yes, but where...

Lubricant soaks in too quickly

Published: Mar 3 2016
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I am using a moisturizing lubricant for my vaginal dryness, but I find that when I use it during intercourse, it disappears quickly and doesn’t provide much slipperiness. Is there anything I can do to make it last longer, or is there another lubricant you can recommend for use during intercourse? Moisturizing lubricants are...

High Tone Pelvic Floor Dysfunction

Published: Oct 22 2008
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I experience a gripping pain when I orgasm! It hurts so much I don’t even want to have another. I’m healthy and fit, and I work out (Pilates) often during the week. What’s happening? Too much of a good thing With all of the focus on strengthening the pelvic floor, there seems to be a silent epidemic of inflexibly tight...

What exactly is a Trigger Point?

Published: Aug 11 2008
  This article explains some of the complications of a muscle spasm/trigger point of the pelvic floor. It’s detailed, but some of you wanted a better understanding of why pelvic floor trigger points seem so complicated. Trigger Points & the Asthma Attack. Did you know that a muscle spasm is similar to a flute player with asthma?...

I lost my penis in the OR!!

Published: May 13 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I had my prostate removed about 3 months ago because of prostate cancer, and well, 'Peter’ seems to have gotten lost in the OR. Even though my doctor told me that my erections would go away for awhile, I was more focused on living than I was thinking about sex. Now that I’m mostly healed from the surgery, my erections still...

Painful Scrotum & Epididymitis

Published: May 12 2006
Dr. Myrtle, In the past two weeks, I’ve noticed blood streaks in my ejaculate. My testicles are a bit tender because I’ve had to wear a support/crotch harness at work (to prevent a fall), and it feels pretty uncomfortable to wear. Could I be doing any damage? Is there something I should do? This sounds like a case of epididymitis. Most men...

Ejaculation and Prostate Cancer

Published: Oct 22 2008
Dear Dr. Myrtle I heard that if a man ejaculates on a regular basis it can help prevent prostate cancer. Is this true? I was also wondering if women need to drain their G-Spot fluid regularly if it’s not expressed in sexual activity, since women have prostates, too? The seminal fluid that results in male ejaculate comes from (er, is...

Listening to Tweety: Erectile Dysfunction Warns of Medical Problems

Published: Dec 13 2006
Dr. Myrtle, My husband is a very healthy man with erectile dysfunction treated by sildenafil (Viagra). I don’t really understand why this is occurs. Is it a problem for him to take sildenafil repeatedly? Erectile dysfunction (ED) is very common. One of every two men between the age of 40-70 years finds it difficult to obtain an erection...

Impotence and men

Published: Apr 3 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle My friend told me that he has impotence, and feels as though his sex life is over. Is there something that he can do? Impotence is a condition where a man’s penis cannot get or maintain a hard enough erection for penetration. Due in part to cultural messages that suggest that sex equals penetration, many men and their partners...

Penile Rehabilitation after Prostate or Pelvic Surgery or Radiation

Published: Apr 14 2011
Why Do Erections Stop Happening after Prostate Cancer Surgery? A common cause of ED is anything that damages, stretches or cuts nerves deep in the pelvis, which commonly happens during surgical or radiation intervention for prostate, colon or rectal cancer. It’s common for men with prostate cancer to have pre-surgical metabolic ED, yet...

Men's Erectile Function

Published: Apr 20 2010
Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Dr. Myrtle, How do men get erections? To understand erections, we have to first understand the anatomy of the penis. Four Part Harmony A male penis is made up of 4 basic structures. The soft, hairless outside skin that stretches over the penis. The urethra, a...

Are parabens safe?

Published: Mar 20 2014
Dr. Myrtle, Are the paraben preservatives in Liquid Silk safe?   A Paraben Riddle Riddle: What is small and true, yet big and deceptive? Answer: The risks of paraben preservatives in sexual lubricants. The Bottom Line For those who just want the long AWT answer: yes, many of the sexual lubricants we offer contain parabens. Unless...

Still Juicy: Maintaining Sexual Health through and beyond Menopause

Published: Apr 2 2008
Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Dr. Myrtle, I’ve experienced several changes in my body since starting through menopause, and I’m worried that my sex life will suffer. Is there anything I can do on my own to maintain my sexy self? Yes, there is quite a bit a woman can do to maintain her sexual health and sexual vitality...

Skip ** the Loo

Published: Mar 1 2007
Dear Dr. Myrtle, You’ve got to help us. My whole exercise class absolutely dreads the skip-rope exercises, because every time we jump, we pee our pants. Most of us are women with children, and we’re guessing our pelvic floors are too weak. Is there something we can do? First, you’re not alone. Urinary incontinence (involuntary loss of urine)...

Penetration with a Pessary?

Published: Aug 4 2008
Dear Dr. Myrtle, My friend has been talking to me about a pessary for her uterine prolapse. Can she still have sex? What does it do? What is uterine prolapse? Uterine prolapse is a condition where the uterus slips lower into the pelvic space, usually due to a lack of support by the pelvic floor muscles and ligaments. Although most commonly...

Vaginal Renewal™

Published: Mar 17 2014
Download a free PDF version of this brochure Dear Dr. Myrtle, I am a cancer survivor in menopause. I don't want to use estrogen but I am dry and sex is getting more painful. What can I do? We have put together a program for women who are currently sexually active with vaginal penetration, and are experiencing dryness and discomfort or pain...

Instant Menopause!

Published: May 26 2011
Help! I’m having a hysterectomy and oopherectomy (ovaries removed) and my doctor tells me to expect “instant menopause”. I cannot take hormones, because I have a risk of cancer. What can I do so that I can enjoy sex after the operation?   ----   There are a variety of things that you can do to address the changes that your body...

How to Avoid Recurring UTIs

Published: May 21 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I keep getting urinary tract infections, especially after sex. Why does this happen, and what can I do about it? Vaginal penetration is the number one cause of urinary tract infections (UTI's) in women. It might seem that UTIs occur because bacteria are physically pushed inside the urethra (the tube which carries urine...

Basic Genital Care for Women

Published: May 16 2014
It is important to maintain a healthy vulva, but few of us receive practical tips. Not all information available for vulvar care makes sense to us at A Woman’s Touch, so we’ve narrowed down the information and corroborated facts with published medical information. Two main principles for caring for the genitals involve letting the vulva ...

Why not use spermicidal condoms?

Published: Aug 8 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I would like to know more about the use of spermicidal condoms. What are the health implications of using one, and what are the alternatives? We recommend that people who use condoms for sexual intimacy do not use condoms with spermicide. There are several reasons for this. 1. First, spermicides are chemical detergents....

How can we avoid condom breakage?

Published: May 3 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, We like using condoms, but every once in a while they break. Recently, they’ve been breaking every other time we use them, and it’s beginning to scare me. Should we be getting stronger condoms? Is there any way to decrease the chances that our condom will break? First, any intact condom is a good condom. Most condom...

Sex and Pregnancy

Published: Jun 1 2006
Click here for a pdf brochure about Sex & Pregnancy. Dear Dr. Myrtle, I’ve just gotten pregnant again (whew!), and my partner is very worried about sexual activity during this pregnancy. Is sex okay during pregnancy, and is there anything I/we should watch out for? Congratulations! Generally speaking, sexual activity is okay during ...

Conception and Sexual Lubricants

Published: Jun 1 2006
Dr. Myrtle, My partner and I are trying to become pregnant, but we struggle with vaginal dryness. Is one lubricant better than another, or should we use anything at all? Do you know anything about a product called Pre~seed? Help! Infertility (the inability to become pregnant) is due to sperm-related (male) problems about 33% of the time....

Vaginal dryness after delivery

Published: Jun 1 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Since I gave birth, I have been experiencing vaginal dryness with penetration. Is this normal? Vaginal lubrication is often an issue for women postpartum (after delivery), especially for women who have chosen to breastfeed. While not such an issue during pregnancy because of the increased fluids in your body, after delivery...

Pain of the perineum

Published: Sep 17 2008
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Can I heal my perineum damaged during delivery? How long will this take to feel normal again during sex? Many women experience damage to the perineum (the area between the vulva and the anus) as a natural part of delivery because the perineum must stretch 2-4 times its usual size to allow the pregnancy to pass by. Some...

Too loose after delivery?

Published: Jun 1 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I’ve heard rumors about women losing vaginal tone and becoming loose after childbirth. Is that true? Some skin and pelvic floor tone is lost during pregnancy and childbirth because the weight of the pregnancy and the compression of internal organs stretches out the pelvic floor. If the woman does not have good pelvic...

What is Sexual Health?

Published: May 17 2006
Dr. Myrtle, Isn’t sexual health something that you just have - isn’t "normal" the baseline? Sexual health might seem a tricky concept to define, given how little we hear about it. Even if your personal perspective of normal adult sexuality is holistic, non-medical and/or allows for some level of personal sexual expression, "normal" was...

Sexual Maintenance

Published: May 17 2006
Dr. Myrtle, My friend told me that you recommend one orgasm per week as sexual maintence. I laughed--you make sex seem like changing the oil in your car or something.... So when someone is comfortable with their sexuality, is that it? Do they get an A+ on their report card? Do they get to pass GO? Can they just stop learning and continue in...

Why is A Woman's Touch different?

Published: Jun 15 2006
Dr. Myrtle, Why does the sexuality information at A Woman’s Touch seem so different from information I’ve seen on other sites and in other places? AWT = Sexual Health + Sexual Pleasure + Maintenance Divergent from popular culture, AWT’s fundamental philosophy of human sexuality is one that combines three major approaches: The first...

Simple Steps to Sexual Health

Published: Jul 7 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Are there any relatively simple things that I can do to improve my sexual health? There are some fairly easy and inexpensive things that you can do that help your whole body be healthier. As you improve the functioning of your blood vessels, nerves, and general exercise capacity, you’ll very likely notice a difference in...

The AWT Good Sex Diet

Published: Mar 26 2009
Download a free PDF version of this brochure   Dear Dr. Myrtle: How can I improve my sexual health and wellness naturally? I am willing to make lifestyle changes, but don’t know where to start. What a great question! Here is a list of things you can do to improve your sexual health primarily through lifestyle changes: Eat 1-2...

Abuse survivor with high libido

Published: Oct 7 2008
Dear Sex Counselor, I have a question about sexual abuse. I am a female, age 22, and when I was about 11 I was sexually abused by my mother’s boyfriend. Now, at the age of 22, I think I’m a sex addict - but NOT the sleeping around type. I love porno movies and dirty magazines, and I masturbate a lot to women. I have not been with...

Can a person orgasm during rape?

Published: Aug 17 2007
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I have this friend who recently was coming home from cheerleader practice with a carload of girls. This guy’s girlfriend told him that at the last stop, this guy jumped into the back seat of the car where she was riding, and this guy raped her with his finger and she had an orgasm. Do people orgasm during rape? Is that...

A list of Sexually Transmitted Infections (aka Sexually Transmitted Diseases)

Published: May 17 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle Can you tell me what things are sexually transmitted? I’m not sure what to be worrying about. Although I don’t think you should spend a lot of time worrying, here is my comprehensive list of sexually transmissible infections. It’s pretty inclusive, although I’m sure there are infections that I didn&rsquo...

I've given someone an STI ... what do I tell previous partners?

Published: Apr 18 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I’ve infected someone with an STI. Should I inform an ex-partner who gave me unprotected oral sex once? There was a definite mixing of secretions. Is there anything that this former partner could do now that would help? I think that it’s important to tell your ex-partner that you found out that you have a Sexually...

Just found out my ex has HPV

Published: Apr 18 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I just found out that an ex-girlfriend of mine has HPV. She had a wart two years before we started dating and never told me (I’m not a happy camper right now). From what I’ve read about the passing of the virus, I have every reason to believe I’m infected, because I’ve had unprotected sex and oral sex...

Condom leakage ... what to do?

Published: Apr 22 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, My husband and I often use condoms. However, we are having trouble with leakage. When he ejaculates, the fluid runs out the bottom of the condom at the base of his penis. Even if he pulls out the instant he is done, there is often some of his fluid on my vaginal lips. We haven’t tried every brand of condom out there, so I...

Is it safe sex to give a hand job?

Published: Apr 22 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Does a "hand job" pose any risk of STI transmission? It seems harmless. This is common in massage places and in casual sex these days. Sorry, but the "hand-to-penis connection" is a easy way to get some undesirable infections. Three scenarios: Imagine that you have little tears in your skin from washing...

Questions about HPV

Published: Apr 22 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Some common questions about HPV. I thought that two women couldn’t give each other STI’s, and now an old partner (from five years ago) is telling me she got HPV from me. I think I have genital warts on my penis, and although they were frozen off once, I don’t think they’ve ever gone away. Are they...

Condoms in porn movies

Published: Mar 17 2014
Dear Dr. Myrtle, Why aren’t porn stars wearing condoms? Does that present a risk to the actors? If not, do you know why it doesn’t? Porn stars aren't wearing condoms because a portion of visual erotica viewers wants to see them without condoms. Actors are often paid more if they are willing to perform without protection, giving them...

Am I allergic to latex?

Published: Apr 22 2006
Dear Dr. Myrtle, My partner and I are fine with wearing condoms, but I get a painful, red rash right at the opening of my vagina after we use them. I’m thinking that I’m allergic to latex condoms. What should I do? First, a word about latex allergies: Latex allergies are more common now than they were even ten years ago, because...

Is my sex toy infected?

Published: Apr 23 2008
Dear Dr. Myrtle, I recently found out that I had an STI, and I had it treated with antibiotics. However, I own a couple of sex toys that I used while I was infected. I know that you say not to share sex toys with partners, so I’m wondering: if I can infect someone else with my sex toy, can’t I also reinfect myself with my toys? Do I...

Polyurethane + Lubricant Safety

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Is it safe to use any lubricant with a polyurethane condom? The Trojan packaging says not to use anything, but I really need something else to feel comfortable using them.   Short Answer Although you need to be careful which type of lubricant you pick, there are a few lubricants that have been cleared in FDA testing for use with...

Sexual Arousal: Goldilocks!

Published: May 29 2014
In Fairytale Language:  Goldilocks is a self-assured, sexually confident women. She would be more sexual, more of the time if she could. Unfortunately, she's terrified of that big bear patrolling the backyard (Papa Bear), and she's otherwise locked in a closet. Sure, Mama Bear is nice enough to let her out 4-6 times each day, and...